If you want your life to change, then change it. Raising your standards is THE sure-fire way to effect positive change in your life, and it’s one of my favorite tools to use personally and in my coaching practice. Having high expectations of your own success and destiny is all well and good, but without the foundation of higher standards (and the work that goes into achieving that), it’s an empty shell. Hope is not enough – you must step up and CREATE by putting energy, time, effort and WORK into it.

Standards 

• Your standards are how you have chosen to behave
• The higher your standards, the better your life
• Doubling your standards makes a great game
• Match your standards to your personal needs
• Only set standards that fit right for today

When a person’s standards are too low

• Continue to operate “below the line” emotionally
• Self-esteem drops; self-worth is questioned
• Mediocrity reigns where excellence should be applied
• Apathy and victimization are ever present
• Experience a low hum of disappointment and low expectations

When a person has, and honors, high standards

• They feel very good about themselves and others too.
• They become irresistibly attractive to high-quality people.
• They don’t get near people or situations that cause problems
• They stay in their power physically, emotionally and spiritually
• Their life experience improves through their commitment to living a better life
• Acceptance replaces anger and thriving replaces treading water

If I asked you where you most need to improve by raising your standards, I’m sure you have an easy answer. You already know where your standards aren’t up to par. Don’t let working out the HOW of raising your standards slow you down.

Set an intention and call me – we will devise a program of raising your standards that is tailor-made for YOUR life as you ease into a new and better way of being. Don’t wait for some arbitrary date or deadline to step into your power and change, NOW is definitely the time. Call for a one-on-one coaching session.

Tender times as the Harvest Moon wells full in Pisces (water/ emotions) this weekend. Unless you are a Vulcan, robot or droid, you may be FEELING this one. It’s what you do with your feelings that matters. Resistance is futile, it only inflames suffering and stalls you out. Instead, try a  grow with the flow and follow the feeling approach or, when in deep waters, become a diver.  Trust yourself and dig down deep. You have to go THROUGH the feeling if you want to break on through to the other side. – #feelingit

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   That ruled!

MG – Record Company Exec (yes they still exist).

Your soul wants to grow!

I hope you had wonderful summer filled with sunshine and good times.

As summer folds gently into fall, (Fall Equinox is at 8:49 AM Mountain Daylight Time September 22nd) our focus often changes as well.

Many of us find ourselves taking stock of the year by making a mental inventory of our accomplishments and what we have achieved so far.  Otherwise we look at what we meant to get done and have stalled out on — or worse, haven’t even started yet.  Some of us find ourselves standing smack dab at the karmic crossroads (scary) of choice and change.

Regardless of the form in which it arrives, it seems as if the Universe is inviting us all to evolve.  This is where your personal foundation kicks in.

• How confident are you in making choices?
• How good are you at navigating change?
• Are you operating in your strength and power or are you stalled out in fear of making the wrong choices for yourself?
• Do you have fear of success/fear of failing?

So here we are wanting to get off the dime but wondering which way to go.  Do you step boldly into the new or stay the comfortable course repeating the same old habits and patterns that lead us to the same old frustrating destination?  I say screw your comfort zone, let’s grab the lessons from your experience thus far and jump boldly into the new.  If you have some outdated patterning that’s preventing you from doing this, identify it and eradicate it.  Let it go. As much as the Universe is inviting (demanding) that we evolve, it is also supporting us in clearing and cleaning our old outdated relationships or ways of being. Now is the time to become a new, more courageous and powerful YOU.

How, you might ask.

1. Drill down your truth.  Define your destination. What do you want (exactly)?
2. Find and sustain your center.  In order to make powerful choices we must choose from our truth not our fear.
3. Get clear on what (fear) is keeping you stuck.
4. How will it feel when you arrive there?  We attract and manifest according to the way we feel – if you can feel it you can create it.
5. Get support.  Hire a coach a therapist or a personal trainer, whatever it takes.  If you can’t afford it, work out a trade of services.
6. Trust.  Let go, surrender to your process and believe that you will arrive at your destination.  Focus on it and step closer to it every day.
7. Learn to allow.  Open up and let the good stuff in.

We are all, each and every one of us, at that pivotal turning point.  I support you in taking complete responsibility for yourself while rising to the occasion, being your most powerful self, and making the necessary changes that will lead you to your happiness.

  I know it’s the dog days of summer and for many it seems as if nothing much is going on but we are all in the process of undergoing a deep personal transformation.  This week will be emotional and you will need to have courage.  While many of us find ourselves standing in that oh so uncomfortable place that I call “The space in between” (the void) it’s the worst.  We are being asked to let go of the old and step boldly into the new but the new has yet to completely form, there can be fear involved when we are asked (or forced) to leap into the unknown.  Be patient with yourself be faithful in your process and be intentional with your thoughts words and actions.  We are all being invited to write the script for our next phase!  Don’t allow your old patterning and fear to cheat you out of finally stepping into your power and your truth… be brave and allow nothing to hold you back always remember, the Universe supports you in this change.

“T.C.,

Was just thinking of you. I turned 7 years sober yesterday and I wanted to thank you cos you put me in the right direction like 11 years ago”

T.T. Graphic Artist / Illustrator

“When I separate myself from myself and am encouraging to the part of me that feels less than it is easier to be kinder to myself.”

S.T. Actor

When Stan has a problem, I usually run to a friend or to Mama D’Arde or to the Top of The Standard for a martini. Recently I was introduced to the one of the most fascinating woman I’ve ever met. Her name is T.C. Conroy, and she’s a life coach.

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“I feel like I can close that chapter of my life and try to absorb that lesson and apply it to my life moving forward. It feels amazing, actually”.

CK – Artsit

Cause no harm. Not with your thoughts, your words, your intentions, your way of being in this world. Take responsibility for your energy and cause no harm.

You know that chatter we have that says; “I am an inconsequential piece of sh*t.” Well, it’s gone!

Brie Widmeyer

No sooner was the Christmas merchandise moved over to the half off rack, but Valentine’s Day rolled out for all to buy.  Over the past month and a half everything seems to have taken on a pink and red heart-shaped hue.  it’s official, Saint Valentine’s Day is unavoidable (at least in the drug store).

I’m a lover of love, and a believer that love is boundless and immeasurable.

Valentine’s Day primarily represents intimate love and unfortunately this seems to leave many of us feeling dissatisfied. In the event you are in a great relationship that’s brimming with trust and love these universal truths still apply but I’m really reaching out to those of you who feel like you are suffering because you are alone. If you find yourself alone, without a lover or going through a breakup Valentine’s Day can become another day to be survived.

Instead of devaluing the magnitude of love and it’s infinite possibilities by celebrating with unmet expectations and obligatory boxes of chocolate, I would much prefer Saint Valentine give love it’s due by becoming a celebration of the infinite energy of love.  But I’m not in charge, so I am writing to remind you that you don’t need a partner or GF or BF to feel love.

I want to help you re-frame your definition of love and shift the way you go about creating and attracting love into your life.

I want to help you re-frame the way you experience love.

What is love?

Love is the creative sustaining force that drives the universe.

Love is sheer power.

Love is everything, love is everywhere.

There is no lack when it comes to love, there is only love.

Love is infinite, it is always there for us to tap into, always present, always abundant.

Please remember this on Valentine’s Day. Don’t think small when it comes to love.  Set a strong intention, make a commitment to rise above the banality of the desire to drop into self-pity.  As opposed to focusing on what you think you don’t have focus on – celebrating the energy of love and all of it’s abundance.  Give yourself love.  Give your friends and family love.  Be wealthy when it comes to love, and love will return to you tenfold.

Love is everything.  There is nothing else.  Live this truth and you will never be alone.

My want for you is that you can anchor in these universal truths.  Master the art of generating love from the inside out, so you never have to experience lack when it comes to the subject of love.  There are many pieces to this puzzle but you can start to feel better immediately when you remember that you are not alone.  The universe is filled with love (not the drugstore kind).  It is always there for you, all you have to do is shift your perspective of love an change the way you generate, receive and give love.