Better life

If you want your life to change, then change it. Raising your standards is THE sure-fire way to effect positive change in your life, and it’s one of my favorite tools to use personally and in my coaching practice. Having high expectations of your own success and destiny is all well and good, but without the foundation of higher standards (and the work that goes into achieving that), it’s an empty shell. Hope is not enough – you must step up and CREATE by putting energy, time, effort and WORK into it.

Standards 

• Your standards are how you have chosen to behave
• The higher your standards, the better your life
• Doubling your standards makes a great game
• Match your standards to your personal needs
• Only set standards that fit right for today

When a person’s standards are too low

• Continue to operate “below the line” emotionally
• Self-esteem drops; self-worth is questioned
• Mediocrity reigns where excellence should be applied
• Apathy and victimization are ever present
• Experience a low hum of disappointment and low expectations

When a person has, and honors, high standards

• They feel very good about themselves and others too.
• They become irresistibly attractive to high-quality people.
• They don’t get near people or situations that cause problems
• They stay in their power physically, emotionally and spiritually
• Their life experience improves through their commitment to living a better life
• Acceptance replaces anger and thriving replaces treading water

If I asked you where you most need to improve by raising your standards, I’m sure you have an easy answer. You already know where your standards aren’t up to par. Don’t let working out the HOW of raising your standards slow you down.

Set an intention and call me – we will devise a program of raising your standards that is tailor-made for YOUR life as you ease into a new and better way of being. Don’t wait for some arbitrary date or deadline to step into your power and change, NOW is definitely the time. Call for a one-on-one coaching session.

Your soul wants to grow!

I hope you had wonderful summer filled with sunshine and good times.

As summer folds gently into fall, (Fall Equinox is at 8:49 AM Mountain Daylight Time September 22nd) our focus often changes as well.

Many of us find ourselves taking stock of the year by making a mental inventory of our accomplishments and what we have achieved so far.  Otherwise we look at what we meant to get done and have stalled out on — or worse, haven’t even started yet.  Some of us find ourselves standing smack dab at the karmic crossroads (scary) of choice and change.

Regardless of the form in which it arrives, it seems as if the Universe is inviting us all to evolve.  This is where your personal foundation kicks in.

• How confident are you in making choices?
• How good are you at navigating change?
• Are you operating in your strength and power or are you stalled out in fear of making the wrong choices for yourself?
• Do you have fear of success/fear of failing?

So here we are wanting to get off the dime but wondering which way to go.  Do you step boldly into the new or stay the comfortable course repeating the same old habits and patterns that lead us to the same old frustrating destination?  I say screw your comfort zone, let’s grab the lessons from your experience thus far and jump boldly into the new.  If you have some outdated patterning that’s preventing you from doing this, identify it and eradicate it.  Let it go. As much as the Universe is inviting (demanding) that we evolve, it is also supporting us in clearing and cleaning our old outdated relationships or ways of being. Now is the time to become a new, more courageous and powerful YOU.

How, you might ask.

1. Drill down your truth.  Define your destination. What do you want (exactly)?
2. Find and sustain your center.  In order to make powerful choices we must choose from our truth not our fear.
3. Get clear on what (fear) is keeping you stuck.
4. How will it feel when you arrive there?  We attract and manifest according to the way we feel – if you can feel it you can create it.
5. Get support.  Hire a coach a therapist or a personal trainer, whatever it takes.  If you can’t afford it, work out a trade of services.
6. Trust.  Let go, surrender to your process and believe that you will arrive at your destination.  Focus on it and step closer to it every day.
7. Learn to allow.  Open up and let the good stuff in.

We are all, each and every one of us, at that pivotal turning point.  I support you in taking complete responsibility for yourself while rising to the occasion, being your most powerful self, and making the necessary changes that will lead you to your happiness.

It’s not Just a Russell Simmons book, it’s a call to action.

Most of the people I have been coaching lately feel as if they have been through the proverbial ringer, myself included at times. The past two years have been rough, to say the least. It feels like we are constantly being tested with so much change and transition. It’s easy to become disillusioned and overwhelmed. We find ourselves asking, what on earth is going on?

This is our wake up call.

Systems both personal and global are in the process of breaking down so they can be reborn. My friend and associate, Jennifer Matthews, said it best when she said the Universe has been gently nudging us for years, but we kept ignoring it, so now we are being shown things in a way that is so aggressive and uncomfortable, it can no longer be ignored.

Can you say oil spill?

The Universe is going to continue to kick our asses until we GET IT.

So what can you do?

DO YOU.

It all starts with you.  You are powerless over so many things, but you have all the power in the world to take care of yourself in a way that impacts your relationships and environment and eventually carries over into the mass consciousness. This is your God given birthright.

Own your power.

Summer is a time of re-birth and rejuvenation.

I support you in tapping into the solar energy of the summer to reinvent a powerful new you, who can easily navigate the current global climate.

Start by asking yourself honestly…

Where am I out of alignment with my integrity?

Where am I being dishonest with myself?

What do I need to upgrade in my life?

What takes me out of my power and zaps my energy?

What am I holding onto that is outdated and no longer serves me?

Let go of attachments.

Get out of ego and into integrity.

The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself. When you are truthful with yourself, the right answers will start to appear.

It is our responsibility to be strong and be in our power so we can send the power of good into the world.

I know that these are trying times indeed.

I am 100% vested in showing you how to be in your strength and take claim of your personal power.  From this place you can create anything you want for yourself those you love and this beautiful world we live in.

If you are ready to step into your power and start feeling great give me a call I would love to coach you.

Warmly,

T.C. Conroy

West Coast Coaching

STANDARDS…

What are they? I’m not talking about standard poodles or the gold standard. I’m talking about the standard from which you operate; the way you measure what is and is not acceptable to you.

Here’s an example. Gina has a high standard when it comes to her appearance. She is groomed to the gills and would never think of leaving the house anything less than 100 percent impeccably pressed. Jimmy, on the other hand, could give a crap. It’s all he can do to locate a pair of jeans on his bedroom floor and throw on that T-shirt he found wadded up at the bottom of his dirty laundry hamper. Gina has a very high standard; Jimmy, not so much.

You have a personal and professional standard that you apply to everything you do. I encourage you to triple these standards and operate from a standard of excellence.

This means striving to do better and achieve more in your life. Ask yourself this: Do you complete work? Do you surround yourself with people who nourish your spirit and intellect? Do you address discrepancies and concerns on the spot?

Good isn’t good enough, either. You need to consistently exceed expectations and continually raise the bar for excellence. In this way, you’ll always generate results.

Here’s an exercise to help identify your current standards:

What is the standard you have set for yourself?

Are you living up to it?

Does it need to be higher?

Are you proactive in your life, or are you just coasting along waiting to see what will happen next?

Five easy ways to raise your standards:

1. Stop tolerating what you don’t like.

Be selfish. Put up with very little. Train others to do it your way or to your satisfaction. You can accommodate and compromise, of course, but don’t drop your standards or shrink your boundaries. Tolerating and productivity don’t mix.

2. Keep your word.

Under-promise if you have to, in order to make sure you do what you say you will. Keep the integrity in your life; enjoy living on the PLUS side of the performance ledger. Productivity increases naturally under these conditions.

3. Beef up systems.

The ultimate in productivity is when you set up a system that causes things occur without any effort from you. In other words, automate and systematize, so that results occur by themselves, through others, or by computer. Reinvent your approach in order to handle the increasing abundance in your work and personal life.

4. Reject requests.

Say, “No.” Or when saying, “Yes,” is going to burden you, negotiate to make the terms as favorable as possible.

5. Commit to raising your standards daily.

Take an honest look at whatever it is that you are doing and make the commitmentment to go the extra mile. Commit to stretching yourself and doing the best you possibly can.