For a while now, and for the first time in my life, I am really truly happy. Not the kind of giddy happy with rollercoaster highs and lows, that fluctuate wildly based off all the other circumstances in life, but hapy with this calm, deep contentment, a self-confidence, a sure, steady, powerful happiness that I never knew existed before.
I have learned so much from my sessions with TC. She gave me tools that a year ago I’d never even heard of. She taught me what they were for and how to use them — and I do use them every day, in business, in personal relationships, in exchanges between strangers on the street. I also use them at home, alone, as one of the most powerful tools TC taught me was to have my own meditation routine that is “like brushing your teeth” as she put it.
I feel like I have become an expert at communication. That’s not to say I’m not still learning, and that I don’t still make mistakes here and there, but the tools TC taught me have helped me learn to ask the most important questions in communication: “What do I really want from this relationship?” and “What can I do about that?” Realizing these two questions (and realizing it’s not at all selfish to ask them) is essential, and then all the rest just falls into place.
All my relationships are so good now. My relationship with my father is great now, I learned to change my expectations of him to match what is more realistic in his post-stroke life, and we have a very happy relationship now, that of an older dad with a grown-up daughter, and we meet once a week for dinner. My mom and I, who were on the rocks when I first started talking to TC, are better than we ever were in my life. TC’s tools taught us how to communicate without hurting each other, and she has since rally risen into a parental guide whose advice I look up to and respect, as well as a caring and compassionate mother and a good friend. Things couldn’t be better between me and my boyfriend Jess – now fiance, as he just asked me to marry him this last week. The tools of communication have also helped us so much that things have been blissful between us for a long time now – not to say that a little hiccough doesn’t come up here now and then, but when it does we are such experts at communication now that we can immediately talk it out, listen to each other, and deal with the problem and move on. The store is also going very well, and we are planning to launch our global shop website this week!
All in all I’m so content and happy and life is really SO god it feels almost surreal. I decided although there are always still things I can work on, I just wanted to soak in this most amazing and affirming feeling for a little while – so I decided to take a temporary break from sessions just to be, and enjoy and practice all these tools for a little while. Of course I still have TC’s number on my speed dial and she’s still my life coach, and I don’t plan to be away long!
